in my body
and still need
maps and lights
to find my way
to how I feel.
lauraeverett asked: How do you prioritize happiness, success, and stability? If the three were to be in conflict with one another, who would you root for and who would you actively help?
I root for forward motion—making decisions/choices whether you know you’re going in the “right” direction or not.
Success will come—seriously. Also, what does ‘success’ even mean. Success to me is making choices based on what you value. I’ve started jotting down notes/lists of things I value which has been helpful when it comes to making hard decisions.
Stability is a luxury. Because life is so unpredictable it is usually a very fleeting feeling for me to feel ‘stable.’ When I do, it’s wonderful! And I swim in it for as long as I can. But life throws curve balls, or I complicate my own life when it gets too stable because I’m human and sometimes stability turns to ‘stillness’ & whether or not this is true, sometimes stillness can seem boring.
This is what my mom says about happiness when I mentioned to her that it’s something I value:
"Going after “happiness” is not a value- Happiness is a feeling and we don’t control our feelings- they come and go like the breeze in Chicago- or the snow in Vermont. We also don’t control our thoughts- they too are abundant- some helpful in that they are “workable” and serve us well to reconnect and inspire value-directed action—but many thoughts and feelings are not workable at all. They keep us from living by our values.
Happiness is elusive. You cannot control this- It’s paradoxical- but the more you try to control for happiness, the more slippery it feels. The more you are about living by your values and what matters most to you- the more you will live in the “zone”- this place of being congruent with who you are- and I think that will actually have you feeling more alive.(More alive isn’t necessarily “happy”— more alive comes with a full range of feelings and emotions—!!)”
I think making small choices for happiness, (this piece of cake or this movie or calling a friend) are all spot on and can lead to a sense of calm and self-appreciation. But I do feel it risky (for myself) to make big decisions based on what I think will make me happier in the long run—because no matter where I am, where I go, or who I am with, life is a beautiful yet terrifying battle/struggle, and what might make me happy today might not make me happy tomorrow.
So to answer your question, I wouldn’t really root for any of those. I would root for making bold choices & taking risks, because that is something that I value. And between you and me, (& anyone else interested in reading this) you’re going to be okay no matter where you go, or what you do. Regret is stupid & pointless. Your story will unfold magically no matter what—the key is that it must come from you. You are the writer of your own story.
This girl is so important to me <3
That’s why, when you find someone you want to keep around, you do something about it.
this makes me sadWow this is really disappointing. great concept presented. Things aren’t always what they seem.